Shop Small This Christmas! (& a PR Adventure!)

This Christmas season, I had a goal to help small businesses in my area market themselves! I was so excited to schedule a segment with one of my favorite cities- West Hartford. 

My plan was to start my official PR firm in 2019, but as we all know, sometimes the best plans start spontaneously. The opportunity was too perfect to pass up, and I was able to partner with some great local shops. 

Reasons why I love to love to shop small? 

  • You always find something that is unique, versus the same products that are always at larger retail stores! (Did I just spend way too much money on candles at Kringle, sure! Was it worth it? 100%!)
  • You support your community! The town that you live in thrives when it’s economy is doing well. It’s always great to get to know your local shop owners- and they’ll get to know you! 
  • If you are a small business owner like me- it’s important to support each other! 

Our segment began with a local jeweler- Lux Bond and Green. This year, classic pearls, David Yurman, and watches for her are in. The best part of a jeweler with variety? They have items as cheap as $25 and if you have a higher budget up to $25,000+. 

We then saw some holiday fashion for him, ties suits and sweaters! And of course, holiday fashion for her! Is anyone else loving faux fur this season? 

Our day ended at a local cook shop, a store I know my friends and family would love for me. There’s always great new gadgets or appliances and pans you can purchase! My mom has been eyeing a Le Cruset dutch oven for years!

With six days to Christmas the countdown is ticking! Don’t shop on Christmas Eve! Shop local today! Happy Holidays! 

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It’s Christmas… And you’re single.

Happy happy holiday season! If you’re reading this blog, it’s probably two weeks out to Christmas, and you’re probably single.

This will be my second Christmas as a single lady, and I can’t believe how time flies. Last year my breakup was still so heartbreaking to me, and an open wound. It made me realize how the entire holiday season is so much different without your partner. In short, I was not in the holiday spirit and almost all of my gifts were bought last minute at Tjmaxx or the package store.

All of my friends were off at parties with their significant others, getting their Christmas trees together, and buying each other too many gifts. On top of that, have you ever noticed how almost every Christmas song involves having someone in your life? I felt like the Christmas season was out to get me.

This year- it’s been different! 

This year, I was in the holiday spirit before Thanksgiving even hit! I started to decorate the day after, and my roomie was not prepared for our house to become a winter wonderland.

So what changed??? I did. I learned that this season is so much more than him. There are so many other people that you can spend time with through this season. I know my mom is so excited to not have me split up between two Christmases. I started to become happy without my other half and with me. And no, this is no BS sappy advice that I am trying to give you. But I’m trying to say that every day can get better. How many more years will you be able to spend with your family one on one? My mom is so excited to decorate the tree with me, and bake cookies. I have one of my best friends coming up to spend a week with me from Florida- and so many adventures in between.

I also have almost all of my Christmas shopping done, and I have a theme for my gift wrap. I’m spoiling so many friends and my family this year!

If you need to take this holiday one bottle of wine at a time, I get it. I’ve been there. But I also wish I let last year lift my sprits, and none of your friends want you to be the grinch. Go grab an ugly sweater and get back out there.

7 Things I’ve Learned Working From Home

November was my first official month of being a full time entrepreneur, and I started to work from home. Running my business full time has been a dream of mine for over 2 years and I still wake up double checking that I’m not late for work!

Network marketing has opened my eyes up to so much more than I ever thought would be possible. At 23 I am able to own my schedule 100%. I no longer have to clock in, I control my paycheck, and I am paying off debt left and right so I can save up to buy my own home. If you asked me 3 years ago what I would be doing as a college grad with a PR degree, I can tell you- I probably never would’ve said this! It’s truly amazing how opportunities fall into your lap and change your life for the better.

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Having my business in the palm of my hand is such a blessing. If I want to sit and work at my desk I can, if I want to work in FL on a beach, well that’s an option too!

Last month was truly a learning experience for me (and trail and error) of making the best of my time at home. I’m taking those 30 days to make this month and the next, and the next even better! If you’re transitioning your life to become a full time entrepreneur- or you want to learn a little more about my day to day- here are 7 things I’ve learned working from home:

  1. Time flies when you own your time (and when you’re having fun!). It really does. I wake up before 9 every morning, and somehow the clock hits noon in what feels like an hour. It’s probably because I stop checking the time every 10 minutes to see if the workday is over. I’ve started to plan my days out- so I know how much time I should be devoting to my work/life balance!
  2. You need to be in charge go you! That project you wanted to get done? Yeah. You are the only person who knows about it- and the only person who is in charge of it. Don’t let your own deadlines pass because it will start to ruin the entire point of you working from home. I set myself alarms throughout the day, and write my goals everywhere. DON’T let yourself down!
  3. There will be days you don’t think you can do it- and days you feel like you are a badass. We all doubt ourselves. And even though I know I can do this and the opportunities that I have are now endless… it’s so easy to let self doubt slip in. I have been listening to so much self motivation, talking to mentors, and using the energy from all of my supporters to keep going. Most mornings, I wake up excited and so ready for all of the good things that are coming!
  4. No one cares about your dream as much as you do. One of my absolute favorite quotes from Rachel Hollis. To all the people who talk about my dreams behind my back- just watch me!
  5. You can put your health first. Girl, you have no reason to NOT go to the gym. You now have the time. You can meal prep, learn to cook, write in your journal, take a mental health break, go to the spa, take a bath. Some days I would come home after work, a networking happy hour, starting the day off at 7am with a TV segment and feel so uninspired- on top of being exhausted. After all of that, I I had to run my business. Even if that is still your schedule, give yourself an hour break to RELAX! At home, I always give myself some mid day time for me!  Overworking yourself will not get you where you want to be.
  6. Watch your mentor. Who is the person you look up to the most? One of my mentors makes the most of her days. And will not go to sleep until her daily goals are met. She always works harder than anyone on her team, and dreams harder. Allow your day to be like their day. If they are doing well- mirror that. And if they aren’t, you need a new mentor!
  7. Go out and take on the world. We are given 86400 seconds in a day. I became an entrepreneur to take on every single second and make the most of it. To not be stuck at a job that didn’t fulfill me. To never miss the moments with my family and people I care about the most. (This I need to work on!)

I seriously can’t wait to look back at this blog in 6 months and tell you so much more. I know there will be more lessons learned and more successes coming.

No matter how supportive they are, no matter how much they love you, no matter what— nobody will EVER care about your dream as much as you do! This is YOUR goal and you’re the only one who can see it through. Stay focused, stay motivated, keep going! -Rachel Hollis #GirlWashYourFace

Thankful Thoughts!

Every year at Thanksgiving the time comes around where I truly start to feel thankful for every little thing.  When I was younger, I always liked Thanksgiving for the food, but waited for Christmas because that was the ‘better’ holiday- with gifts.

As I’ve gotten older, I’ve realized that it’s a million tiny things that make Thanksgiving one of the best holidays. My family’s table has gotten smaller throughout the years as loved ones have passed on. And so many things have changed especially this year.

The traditions that my family has taught me growing up, will stay forever though. Like waking up the day before Thanksgiving knowing that I’ll be spending the afternoon cutting apples, making pumpkin pie’s, getting the stuffing ready, and watching my mom prep the turkey.  It’s so easy to remember the days where my grandma was able to make pies with us, but now it’s become a job for my mom and me.  We quote classic family disputes, conversations and my dad even keeps our Hungarian prayer before we eat dinner.

In these coming years,  I know that my family’s table will start to grow, with new family members, and friends to share the day with!  Spending time with the people that matter most,  is truly what this holiday is all about!  Of course, you also have to eat way too much turkey, stuffing, and mashed potatoes!

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In 2018, I’ve been thankful for so many things.  Being able to spend the day with my mom, dad, brother, and sister in law is seriously one of the biggest blessings in itself!  Sometimes, we get so caught up in the day today that we forget what the big picture is. I have a especially learned these past 11 months that putting yourself first, and your dreams first is the most important thing to do! I wouldn’t of been able to do it without the support of all of them!

November has been a big month for me, and as most of you know I went full-time as an entrepreneur with my business! It’s been a change, in the best way possible!  As I’ve transitioned into this role, I’ve planned big things for my blog in these upcoming months!

To all of my readers, I’m so thankful for you! And I can’t wait to see where this new adventure brings me!

 

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Some of My Favorite #MondayMotivation

Mondays can be tough. Whether you’re a full time entrepreneur, work a 9-5, or work a few jobs, Monday is always the reset of the work week!

This morning I woke up and all I wanted to do was stay in bed for the morning and push all of my work off until ‘later.’ But, we all know that the words “I’ll do it later,” mean I am putting this off until I actually have to do it- or just put it off forever!

I had to find a way to start my week off with as much energy as I ended my week, so I turned to self motivation! It could be a podcast (my current obsession is the Jennifer Allwood show!), book, or video.

For those of you that haven’t read Girl Wash Your Face… Get. This. Book. Get it right now! I have to say that it has been a game changer for me! And a chapter a day to start the morning has been the perfect way to start the day! I’ve also been reading Mastering Your Inner Mean Girl, and Leave Your Mark!

If books aren’t really your thing (I get it who has time to read!) Videos might be your go to! I’ve tried to stop the mindless scroll on all my social and change it to something meaningful- follow Tony Robbins, Grant Cardone, or Rachel Hollis for some quick videos.

My all time favorite go to is: The video EVERY woman should watch! from Rachel Hollis’ page!

Sometimes it can take just a few minutes to turn your entire day around! You have the power to do that. Know that even on those days that you don’t feel your best- your hustle can’t stop!

What are some of your favorite ways to start your week off? And share some of your favorite self motivation in the comments! 🙂

Happy Monday everyone!

 

So You’ve Been Meaning To Try ‘It’…

About a year ago, I was not only holding myself back with my business, but also my life. I wasn’t where I wanted to be and I was going through a tough breakup. At that point I didn’t feel like myself anymore. On top of not being mentally healthy, I was also the heaviest I had ever been in my life.

I kept telling myself that I was going to be better the next day, the next week, oh next month will be better. But nothing was even remotely close to where I wanted it to be. I decided I needed to take smaller steps to become a little better every day, and it was not easy. Sometimes I could take a step forward to take 10 steps back.

Nothing drastic happened overnight. It was a lot of little things that I slowly started to do that added up to me realizing that I was happy again. It’s taken almost a year. But step by step I’m making it there.

One of the many ‘little’ things that I added to my week was ballet. My mom asked me if I wanted to do an adult ballet class with her, she ALWAYS wanted to take ballet as a kid but never took a class in her life. How could I not support my mom and learn ballet with her? I used to be a dancer when I was younger, and I can tell you that I am NOT the best at it.

But I love it. During those weeks that I would barely want to get out of bed it was my stress reliever, exercise, and I always left with a smile on my face. After my first class of trying to remember all of the positions, French terms, and slipping my ballet shoes off my feet- I felt myself crying because I was so happy.

It was as simple as that. Adding that one little thing into my week. That change in my schedule fueled me to try more little by little, day by day. I can’t go a week now without scheduling a dance class in.

That was the beginning of my year of trying new things and really stepping out of my comfort zone. It was my choice for me, to make myself happier. 

You’ve been meaning to try that new diet, you’ve been meaning to go to that new gym or try that new class, you’ve been meaning to start your new blog… but you don’t.

I seriously ask myself all the time, WHY aren’t you doing that thing that you said you were going to do two months ago. I can think of a million reasons (not very good ones) why I put things off. And then I start, and wonder why I haven’t been doing ‘it’ for months.

We’re all guilty of this pattern over and over. I wish I could tell you a way to break it, but procrastination is just too easy!

What I can tell you- is to go out and give it a try. Maybe this blog today is your reason to finally make that change!

Finding Faith- The Start

Coming back from a vacation that refuels you is one of my favorite reasons to go on vacation in the first place. (That and my never satisfied travel bug that’s been in me for the past 2 years)

I feel so ready to make the last 3 months of 2018 really count for the better, and make some big changes in my life that I have been working on for a long time.

Going to Florida always gives me so much energy, happiness, and pushes me to do better. I’m almost always going down to visit some of my best friends, to better my business, take a break and relax in the sun, or heading down to a conference. My current obsession with Sarasota has made me seriously think about a move!

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This past weekend, I was able to ‘Come To The Table,’ at Bayside Community Church and work on one of the hardest relationships in my life- my faith. When I heard about the all womens’ Fatih conference in June, something was pulling at my heart to go.

My relationship with my Fatih is something that I’ve been wanting to work on for awhile. Growing up, my parents were not strict with us attending church, but always kept spiritual values in our family. My dad has a very strong relationship with God, and I always felt that I struggled with mine. I was not as connected as he was, but I also didn’t realize at the time- everyone has a different relationship with their faith. IMG_0846

Standing in a room filled with hundreds of women, all worshiping together was so fulfilling for me. Church in New England is so different than services down south, and any chance I have to go I love to take.

The energy in church this weekend was eye opening to me. I saw how other women bring faith int every day life and their business. I was able to understand why some women feel so connected- while others are still figuring out their beliefs.

My biggest take away- make time for coffee with the lord like you would make time with a friend. Let him sit at your table with you- one on one. Your relationship with your faith is yours and yours alone. Everyone is different and that is okay.

“For you know that when your faith is tested, your endurance has a chance to grow. So let it grow,” James 1: 2-4

Are you working on your faith? I would love to learn how you worship!

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Can I Tell You a Secret?

Can I tell you a secret?

Okay… are you listening? There will be good days and bad days. There will be days that you don’t want to work. Sometimes, it can be so hard to pour your heart into your dreams. But that one day that you put your dreams off, that turns into two days, three days, a month. That is when you give up. And getting back up when you are completely down- is much harder than just being a step or two behind.

Get up! Go out and get what you want and what you deserve.

The past few days I’ve just been struggling with life, with upcoming changes, and even though I’m excited I can’t say that I’m not nervous. But what I keep telling myself is the second that I let myself take my next leap I’ll be wondering why I didn’t do it sooner!

This is a repeating theme in life. There is a constant need and want for change. At the same time, a constant need and want for the same things. As people, we love the day to day routine because it’s just so easy. (If you need some work-life tips check out my 5 tips on being a bold, beautiful young professional!)

No matter how hungry you can be for your success, there are always times that you tell yourself that you can’t do something- or life hits hard and is holding you back.

I had a bad week last week and just overall not felt I was not enough. I made myself destress, disconnect so I didn’t burn out, and told myself that I deserve to have a good time!

We’re all imperfectly perfect. We all make mistakes, and some people don’t always agree with what we’re doing or where our dreams are going. But don’t let that make you have a bad day. You are enough, your dreams are worth it, and so are you.

Happy restart to the week! (Does anyone else love Mondays as much as me?)

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One of Those Mornings- And a Spilt Cup of Coffee

It was one of those mornings. You have 1000 things to do and you’ve already woken up late. You skip the shower and swap for dry shampoo. Your makeup routine becomes nonexistent, and coffee becomes breakfast.

This morning that was me. My alarm went off at 7:45- and I decided to spend 25 extra minutes in bed. Almost every morning, I get lost on Instagram, checking my blog stats, updating my email, and watching videos on Facebook.

Now, it’s 8:05. I plan my outfit and check the clock- it’s 8:17. Seriously where does time go in the morning? When you have somewhere to be it always goes by too quickly. I grab my towel and knock over all of shampoos (probably waking up my roomie) and hop into the shower. When I rush out of the bathroom- I quickly throw on my favorite little black dress, a jean jacket, and my favorite sandals (from Target) on.

I run downstairs quickly feed my cats- make myself a coffee, hairspray, clean up my mess from last night, and I’m out the door at 8:54. Besides being late, I’m already feeling stressed about the day, I have meetings, calls with my team, and a million things to do in between…

I spill my coffee.

That feeling is the worst. I’m already late world, thanks for making me even more late- and now I have hot coffee all over my leg and on my steering wheel and the day is ruined. We’ve all been there right?

Sometimes, I forget the big picture. No, My crazy morning will not ruin my day.

So what do I do to take back my day?

  • Take a deep breath. I just stop and tell myself, “I’m already late what is one more minute?” Because seriously, the world will not stop if I show up a few minutes late.
  • Put self motivation on! I’ll throw on a podcast by one of my favorite motivators! Rachel Hollis, Grant Cardone, Tony Robbins, are always ready to go on my Spotify.
    • Tony always says, “Motion is created by EMOTION,” so what emotion will define your day?
  • Listen to your favorite song in the car on repeat, way too loud for your commute or drive!
  • Lastly, and most importantly, plan something fun later on in the day! (And if that is popping your favorite bottle of wine and eating ice cream for dinner you go girl!)

I’m not an expert at ‘adulting,’ you’ll always hear me admit! But I’ve found so many ways to take back my day after I’ve spilt my coffee.

What are your tips on making the most of your day?

So I've been single

So I’ve been single…

Well for those of you that don’t know- I’ve been single for almost a year to date now. I decided I needed some time for myself after a 5 year relationship ended for the better, I had to figure out what I wanted- more importantly who I wanted in my life.

And no, this is not an “I’m single and I’ve been loving it- here’s why you should too,” kind of blog. To be honest, I haven’t really loved it. I think it’s a topic that none of us really talk about at our age or in our generation. It seems like most of my friends are engaged, getting married, or in a long term relationship. 

I was there too. I thought I would be engaged by now. But I know that what I decided to do was for the better for me and for my life. 

As a young professional and a very independent young woman, I think that it’s very important to talk about being single. Also, I am truly hoping that some of my stories and advice will be able to help you out. It’s been quite an adventure for me.

There’s been ups, downs, maybe a few tears, bad dates, great dates. Well, a lot of bad dates. I felt like I was coming back into the dating world with zero experience. I left my boyfriend whom I had met in high school 6 years ago. At first I wore my heart on my sleeve and trusted too many guys who didn’t deserve a minute of my time. 

All of that has lead me to where I am today- a place that I wouldn’t be without the support of my co-workers, community, friends and family. I want you to know that you aren’t alone. That it is okay to be single, and most importantly that you have to be happy with who YOU are. So you can find a man that is worth your time. Trust me girl, you are worth it. 

I can’t wait to continue this series with you! Now… where can I even begin…