When You Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve

I should’ve known he wasn’t my match the minute I found out he was allergic to peanut butter… and my cats. But here I was, making him dinner, waiting for his responses, scheduling dates, and trying to see how we would fit into each others lives. He was my ideal, or so I thought. In finance, pretty big goals for life, the two kids and white picket fence dream.

So, I played along. We would go out every other week or so, network, he always paid for my drinks and washed the dishes when I cooked. About 2 months in I found out he was still on Bumble, but so was I, so he wasn’t seeing anyone else right? Or he was…

Four months go by, and I had to know. “What are we?” The answer I got- “We just aren’t on the same level.” I broke it off. I would not waste my time on another man who wasn’t ready for me. At this point, it was the 3rd man in 6 months I decided wasn’t for me. I didn’t flinch when Ed broke it off because ladies, he was not worth my time or tears.

There were more dates, friends of friends, a guy I met at a bar, one of my brothers best friends. A Ryan, Mike, another Mike, another Mike, another Ryan. Small talk, drinks, learning about each others lives.

After dating someone for 5 years, I had to see what else was out there. I felt like all the good ones were taken! All of the friends who had “great single guys,” were fixer uppers, but would be PERFECT for me. Bumble sucks, I wouldn’t even download tinder.

I wear my heart on my sleeve. If this story above sounds like your life, girl I get it.

Many women aren’t active in the dating field. But I like to play ball, be out on a Friday night. How am I supposed to meet my match, if I truly don’t know what my match was? To be honest, I have a much better idea of my ideal man. I know he is out there, but I truly don’t believe you know until you try.

If you’re like me, and want to date- I say go out and DO IT! Out of all the awful dates, awkward texts saying- it was fun but I’m going to pass, I also gained a true sense of self. And don’t get me wrong! I also had some great company and conversation. There were attributes of some men that I didn’t know I wanted in my life. Someone that will push me to grow my business, who I don’t need to take care of, that washes a dish and can do laundry.

I also had a man build me up to have the confidence to find a man that is “on my level.” Even though we didn’t work out, his big heart helped me remember why I wanted to be single in the first place. I finally remembered what falling in love met to me again.

My best advice to all of you single ladies out there- do you. Don’t let other people tell you what you want or need in a partner because they aren’t living your life. Find someone who makes you happy, and who is a good person. If you have a feeling they aren’t for you, go with that feeling. If they won’t give you the time of day, then don’t give them yours. DO NOT let a second chance turn into a third, or a fourth.

I unapologetically wear my heart on my sleeve because that is who I am. But, no one has the power to take that from me, and that is the most empowering part of being myself.

 

 

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Live Your Daily Mantra

When I wake up in the morning I always try to start my day on a positive note. What you speak becomes your reality. I’ve truly learned that from constantly listening to self development and reading books upon books.

Right now, I have so many goals going through my head, so many things that I want to get done- and last night I hit a little bit of a slump. It happens. There is no way that every single day can be perfect. We are our own worst critics and sometimes, we need to get over ourselves. I told myself that I would throw a little pity party last night, bake some brownies, and wake up ready for today. It worked.

It’s okay to give yourself a break and catch a breath when you feel like you need one. Or else you’ll get totally burnt out and not get to where you want to be. But the most important thing to do is never stop.

I decided I was going to write myself a daily mantra for my business- that I could live by very day. We all have a daily mantra for life inside of us. When you wake up what is the first thing you tell yourself? “Today is going to be amazing?” Or “I’m already ready to be back in bed?” Or “Can I just reach this goal already?” See how each sentence in itself sets you up for a drastically different day. And no one sentence can define what you accomplish. If you are like me, there are thoughts constantly popping up in your head.

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So what do you tell yourself daily? Even if you have to force yourself to smile in the mirror and say that you will have a good day. Or put on your favorite lipstick, playlist, outfit, or shoes- to spark some positive thoughts.

A lot of you know that I started to journal daily- using my Dream Life Daily Journal! It’s also helped me so much, not only with life and my business but also with my faith. Starting your day physically writing down goals is proven to help you reach them. There’s also daily affirmations to let yourself know that you are capable of what you say you are!

No matter what your goals are, they aren’t easy to achieve without letting yourself know you can achieve them. Stop wasting time wishing you are where you want to be. And start doing!

Write your mantra.

Life at 24… Ready for More!

Birthdays seem to come faster and faster each year. Anyone else feel the same? How am I 24, just yesterday I was still in college, high school. 2009 was 10 years ago. Time flies when you’re having fun I guess!

Truly, I am never the girl who wants to make an entire month out of the day I was born. I just love to know people care about me- a card in the mail is one of my favorite things to get! And of course, spending the day with people I love.

This year, I have high expectations for myself. If you asked me if I thought I would be sitting in my home office today writing this blog as a full time entrepreneur, I probably would’ve said no. But life had other plans for me- in the best way possible!

So many of my friends who are in their mid twenties agree that it is such a crazy and transitional time of life. You start to reach your dreams that you wanted to get to as a kid, or you start to realize you need to go after those dreams. Some of your friends will leave your life, and new ones who have similar aspirations come into your life. You’re either single, or probably at getting ready to be engaged to your significant other.

I’ll leave my 24 year old self a note- for when I look back on this blog in 2020, 24 is going to be a good year for you, keep your head up and your goals set high!

Thank you to all the people who constantly make me a better version of myself and for all the birthday love!

XO

Let’s Stick to Our Resolutions

It’s January 2nd, which means you just started- or already stopped- or are waiting to start your 2019 New Year’s resolution.

These past few years I’ve set a few resolutions. One for my health, one for my wealth, and one for my personal development. I can tell you that I have met some of these resolutions. But, like many people, have also fallen off the wagon and stopped them.

The great thing about a resolution is even if you stop, miss a day, week, or a month, there is always the next day to hit the reset button. Stating that you are going to work out every single day, then already missing today does not at all mean that you should be waiting until next year to get going again.

Do you ever have a feeling that you are about to have a good day? Well that’s how I feel about 2019, and I know a lot of you feel that way too!

I am by no means an expert on helping you keep your resolution, but I can tell you this. Don’t set a goal up for failure. If you go to the gym once a week- don’t tell yourself that you need to go every day. If you know you need to save $5000, don’t tell yourself that you can’t spend any money. It turns to shopping sprees and treat yourself moments that blow your budget.

One way that I like to set goals is using a qualitative measurement versus a quantitive number. Yes, I want to lose weight, have more money, and make myself an overall better person by doing X, Y, and Z. But I found that when you connect your feelings to your goals it makes it so much easier to reach.

When I lost 14lbs last year, I loved seeing that number on the scale, but I also loved the way looked in my favorite jeans and bathing suit more. My body had more energy, I felt better. From my paychecks I started to take $100 a week out of my checking account into an account I couldn’t electronically transfer from. I told myself that I needed to be a better leader and more assertive so my team could start to prosper as well. This lead me to make the decision to leave a job that no longer satisfied me or my goals.

I want you to know that I am rooting for you this year! Leave the goals and deadlines you didn’t meet in 2018, set new goals for this year, and get ready to make 2019 your year!